If You Had Controlling Parents How to Make Peace With Your Past and Take Your Place in the World (Paperback)
|Author: Dan Neuharth|
|A respected family therapist offers a bestselling analysis of the longterm effects that controlling parents have on their children, delineating eight styles of control parents use and explaining how to overcome and break the cycle of unhealthy control. Reprint. *Author: Neuharth, Dan *Subtitle: How to Make Peace With Your Past and Take Your Place in the World *Publication Date: 1999/10/01 *Number of Pages: 245 *Binding Type: Paperback *Language: English *Depth: 0.50 *Width: 5.00 *Height: 7.75|
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A bestseller that is striking a deep chord among the 15 million children of controlling parents, this book helps readers let go of the anxiety, self-blame, perfectionism, and relationship difficulties that can result from unhealthy control in childhood.
Do you sometimes feel as if you are living your life to please others? Do you give other people the benefit of the doubt but second-guess yourself? Do you struggle with perfectionism, anxiety, lack of confidence, emotional emptiness, or eating disorders? In your intimate relationships, have you found it difficult to get close without losing your sense of self?
If so, you may be among the fifteen million adults in the United States who were raised with unhealthy parental control. In this groundbreaking bestseller by accomplished family therapist Dan Neuharth, Ph.D., you'll discover whether your parents controlled eating, appearance, speech, decisions, feelings, social life, and other aspects of your childhood—and whether that control may underlie problems you still struggle with in adulthood. Packed with inspiring case studies and dozens of practical suggestions, this book shows you how to leave home emotionally so you can improve assertiveness, boundaries, and confidence, quiet you "inner critics," and bring more balance to your moods and relationships. Offering compassion, not blame, Dr. Neuharth helps you make peace with your past and avoid overcontrolling your children and other loved ones.
In this guide to recovering from an unhealthy childhood, a clinical psychologist describes eight personality styles of controlling parents and provides self-tests to help readers determine whether or not they have been victimized by a parent's controlling behavior. Additionally, the author provides strategies to help readers develop confidence, become assertive, and create emotional distance between themselves and their controlling parents.